With 2018 now underway, there is certainly no shortage of life advice in the media when it comes to setting new year’s resolutions. While the conversation about resolutions seems to focus mostly on adults, there’s also a value in helping teenagers set meaningful goals for themselves. In fact, teenage girls can benefit significantly from establishing personal goals for many reasons, including improved self-esteem, focus, and time management.
Here are some tips for helping your teenage daughter set healthy goals for the new year:
Make sure goals are on your daughter’s terms.
You can’t expect your daughter to be motivated to reach her goals if you set them for her. Though you can certainly assist your daughter with her goal-setting, she must be in the driver’s seat when it comes to determining what she’d like to achieve and why. You can walk your daughter through this process by helping her explore what’s most important to her. Having a candid and genuine conversation with your daughter about her aspirations will help her realize what types of goals align best with the vision of success she sees for herself.
Encourage your daughter to dream big but also be realistic.
It’s essential that teenage girls dream big about their futures and, as cliché as it sounds, reach for the stars. However, for goals to be achieved, they must be realistic. It’s best to encourage your daughter to set goals that are specific, measurable, and can be attained within a predetermined period of time. For instance, setting an academic goal to achieve a higher GPA is too broad. Instead, teach your daughter to frame this goal into a “micro goal.” An example of a micro goal may be to “raise my average in chemistry by five points by the end of sophomore year.” This type of goal is much more attainable, as it focuses specifically on one subject matter and includes a clearly defined objective and timeframe.
Make it as engaging as possible.
You can empower your teenager to reach her goals by making the process engaging and collaborative. One idea is by making it a game in which you and your daughter have some healthy competition as you both reach your goals. Or, you can consider starting a bucket list in which you both brainstorm the things you’d like to accomplish in your lifetimes. These types of activities will get your daughter excited about formulating goals that truly match her interests and dreams.
Remember, goals are just as important for teens as they are for adults. By giving your daughter a framework to set goals (and accomplish them), you can put her on the path to greater health, well-being, and success.
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